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01 — Sexual health

Men's
sexual health.

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Direct, evidence-based psychosexual therapy for the full range of men's sexual concerns — from common presentations like erectile difficulties and premature ejaculation, through to desire, performance, compulsive behaviour, and the relational layer that often sits underneath all of it.

This page is an overview of what's covered, the scale of the issue, and how to start.

02 — Men's sexual health, in context

Sexual health is health.

Around two in three Australian men experience a sexual difficulty at some point in their lives.¹ Only about one in six seek professional help.¹ For premature ejaculation alone, the average Australian man self-treats for over three years before consulting a professional — the longest delay of any country in the Asia-Pacific region.² The reasons men don't seek help are well-studied — embarrassment, the assumption it'll resolve on its own, the way GPs and other clinicians rarely bring it up first, and the absence of anyone in most men's lives who has ever asked the question. None of that is a personal failure. But it costs a lot — for the men themselves, their partners, and the relationships in between. Sexual health treatment works. The conditions below are the most common presentations I see, and the ones that respond well to evidence-based psychosexual therapy.

03 — What I help with

What I help with — in detail.

  • 01

    Erectile Difficulties

    Difficulty getting or maintaining an erection sufficient for sex. Often involves a mix of physical, psychological, and relational factors. Therapy works on the psychological and relational layer alongside any medical treatment your GP has organised.

  • 02

    Premature Ejaculation

    Ejaculating sooner than you or your partner would like, more often than not. One of the most common — and most treatable — sexual concerns in men. Therapy uses evidence-based behavioural techniques alongside work on the anxiety, avoidance, and self-criticism that often build up around it.

  • 03

    Delayed Ejaculation

    Difficulty reaching orgasm, or being unable to reach orgasm at all, despite adequate stimulation. Less talked about than premature ejaculation but no less treatable — and often missed by GPs and partners alike.

  • 04

    Low Libido & Desire Mismatch

    Reduced or absent sexual desire — or a sustained gap between your desire and your partner's. Both are common, both have multiple drivers (hormonal, psychological, relational, contextual), and both respond well to structured psychosexual therapy.

  • 05

    Sexual Performance Anxiety

    Anxiety about sexual performance — getting hard, lasting long enough, satisfying a partner — that ends up interfering with the very thing you're worried about. Common across all ages and stages of life. Treatable.

  • 06

    Compulsive Sex & Porn Use

    Sexual behaviour or pornography use that has become difficult to control, is taking up significant time, or is causing problems in your work, relationships, or wellbeing. Therapy works on the function of the behaviour, not just the behaviour itself.

  • 07

    Sexual Anxiety & Avoidance

    Avoidance of sex or sexual situations driven by anxiety, shame, past experiences, or previous difficulties. Common after periods of erectile or performance difficulties — and often the thing that keeps the original problem stuck.

  • 08

    Sexual Communication & Relationships

    Difficulty talking about sex with a partner — what you want, what's not working, what's changed. Most couples never learn how to have these conversations directly, and the cost compounds over time.

  • 09

    Sexual Identity & Orientation

    Questions about sexual orientation, gender identity, kink and BDSM, non-monogamy, or how any of these fit with the life you've already built. Therapy is a place to work through these questions without pressure to land in any particular place.

  • 10

    Parasocial Intimacy & Paid Companionship

    When the most emotionally significant relationships in your life are with people you've never met — content creators, paid companions, AI partners, or online figures. Increasingly common, rarely talked about, and worth working through if it's started to substitute for real connection or cost more than you can sustain.

  • 11

    Painful Sex

    Pain during or after sex — and the anxiety, avoidance, and relationship strain that builds around it. Causes are often medical (skin conditions, pelvic floor issues, post-surgical pain, prostatitis), so I'll work with your GP or specialist as part of the picture, alongside the psychological and relational work.

04 — What therapy looks like

Structured. Direct. Practical.

Therapy with me is structured and direct. The first session is about working out what's actually going on — physically, psychologically, and in your relationships. From there, the work is practical: addressing what's driving the problem, building skills and strategies that hold up in real life, and tracking progress as we go. Where the picture includes medical factors, I'll work alongside your GP or specialist. The detail varies by condition; the underlying approach doesn't.

05 — Begin

Don't see your thing?

Most men come in for one thing and find another underneath. The free 10-minute intro call is the easiest way to work out whether what's going on is something I can help with.

References

1 Mengesha Z, Alem AZ, Gebremedhin TA, Hawkey AJ. (2025). Help-Seeking for Sexual Difficulties Among Australian Men: Analysis of the Ten to Men Longitudinal Study. Archives of Sexual Behavior. Reported prevalence of at least one sexual difficulty: 64.7% in 2022; help-seeking rate: 17.6%.

2 Park HJ, Park JK, Park K, et al. (2016). Initiators and Barriers to Discussion and Treatment of Premature Ejaculation Among Men and Their Partners in Asia Pacific — Results From a Web-based Survey. Sexual Medicine, 4(3), e202–e210. Australian respondents reported an average self-treatment duration of 36.8 months.